I want to thank everyone who left comments on Help Wanted. They were so helpful, you have no idea.
After reading all of your suggestions and talking to other parents (including my own), I’ve come up with a pretty good plan that I think I’m happy with. And, surprisingly, it doesn’t involve taking the soother away. For now.
I’m definitely going let her keep using the soother at nap and bedtime, as well as during the day when she really, really, needs it. But, like I was told a few times, she is still so little and really, what harm does it do? When she’s old enough to understand better, which, at the rate she learns, might be sooner than I think, we are going to do one of the ceremonies that you’ve suggested. Haven’t decided which one.
This is an un-plan that I can live with. Thanks!